You can also work alongside the teacher or counsellor and help develop the skill of conflict resolution and how to recognize when something or someone is in danger. Speaking to your child’s teacher or guidance counsellor can give you an idea on whether your child is experiencing difficulty with others or if they are just focusing on others faults. If your child is an obvious tattletale at home, the same scenario may be happening at school. This could result to being a target for bullies, being called names and unsociably welcome by others due to the notions of untrustworthiness. Even though following the rules and being aware of your surroundings is good trait to have but it becomes a concern when a child is constantly finding a reason to land someone in trouble. A child who tends to tattletale at school, will over monitor their classmates, immediately notices when a classmate breaks a rule or gets worked up because an activity or a situation is not going their way. While a child is able to differentiate between good and bad, they must also learn and understand the difference between what is important and what is not worth bringing the attention to the immediate authority.
This skill is a good characteristic that a child possess because they are learning to be vigilant to their surroundings as well as picking up on good and bad behavior. Telling the difference between good and bad is one of the basic skills that a child develops in their early age. It can also improve your child’s ability to resolve conflict with their siblings instead of bottling up bitter feelings towards one another or getting you involved to resolve their conflict for them. These practices will improve the tattletale’s behavior to a more caring and understanding sibling. Also encourage your children to bond and share their feelings to one another, may it be good or bad to avoid misunderstandings, jealousy and unwanted behavior towards each other. Explain to them that everyone has their turn in the spot light and that it is good to congratulate and notice others for their accomplishments. Also make sure that you teach them to be happy about someone else’s success or achievements especially when it is their sibling’s. Give praises in a way that you recognize them in their own unique abilities or strengths. Observe your children and make sure that sibling rivalries don’t get heated up to the point that they feel the need to undermine one another. To your child the purpose of telling or finding small reasons to tell is to get their sibling in trouble or to prove that they are just as “perfect” or favorable. The child that is experiencing these thoughts and feelings would use revenge from a previous disagreement or they have created bitter feelings towards their sibling. In most cases it occurs when your child believes that their younger or older sibling is being noticed more for their achievements or they believe that their sibling is the favorite. Sibling rivalry is one of the reasons why your child is experiencing the tattletale phase. How can you help your child overcome this phase? Below are some tips that can help you work through the tattletale phase. The child is unable to confront a situation on their own and doesn’t try to solve the problem. This becomes very unhealthy for the child socially and mentally. There are also instances that the child over monitors their peers and tattletales on every single situation that doesn’t even concern them. The tattletale child tends to tell the teacher right away without handling the situation on their own. An example is when a playmate doesn’t follow a rule on a game.
Tattletales often results to their parents, teacher or a figure of authority right away about someone or something that doesn’t seem right in their perspective. Let’s learn the reasons behind a tattletale behavior in children and discuss ways on how to handle and prevent this phase from becoming a habit and an unwanted behavior.Ī tattletale child is someone who often tells on their siblings, classmates or peers with the intentions of gaining attention or landing someone in trouble. But how often does your child tell on their siblings or peers? Do you notice your child’s behavior when telling on their siblings? Is it often negative, do you observe some falsehood and contradictions in their stories? Is there a point that you find lies or something added to the story just to get someone in trouble? If this is the case your child might be having the case of the “tattletale”. It is normal for children to have sibling rivalries and disagreements that would usually lead to telling on each other.
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